How are you?
“Busy!” was probably your answer. (bonus points if you answered aloud) And it’s rarely said with gratitude, right?
Well, you’ve heard it before but I am saying it again: it isn’t the healthiest answer one could give.
Yes, we’re ALL busy. Life seems to be like that, right? Appointments and obligations and exercise classes and oil changes and haircuts… the list of “have to do” on our calendars gets longer all the time. And now it’s summer and we don’t want to waste a moment of the sunshine and warm weather and semi-vacation feel each day brings.
But what if we decided it wasn’t possible to “waste” a day? That whatever you did in the 24-hours we all have is exactly what you were supposed to be doing? Nothing wasted. You might look at a schedule full of housecleaning and chores and running children to dentist’s appointments as a day when ‘nothing got done,’ but what if you reframed it? What if you looked at that same day as a day when you were given the gift of showing up for your children’s well-being and an opportunity to create more peace and comfort inside your home? A time when you were allowed to gather the items your family needs to be well-fed and healthy for the coming week? All of the chores and errands are a type of service, aren’t they? Doing for others? If you managed to make one person’s life easier (spoiler alert: you did) and if you accomplished any tasks that benefited others’ lives (again: you did), then that day was not wasted. It was almost an offering to God, a thanksgiving for the people in your life. Does that change how you saw your day?
I am trying to re-frame this for myself, at home and at work. Sometimes we clean up messes we didn’t make, and sometimes someone else is cleaning up ours. Sometimes we’re invited to show a little patience and other times, we benefit from the grace of others. It’s all part of the dance, right? This dance of life?
I have a dear friend who talks about how to “orange” a situation. If you didn’t know what an orange was, how would you describe it? What would you do with it? Maybe it’s a toy, to toss to a child or a therapy ball to roll out the kinks in your sore feet. Whatever; you get the idea. A thing is not necessarily what we “know” it is. Nor is a situation. Nor is a person. I am trying, this week, to see people, places and things as they could be, not as I already “know” they are. I’m out to “orange” this week. Check back to see if I managed to accomplish anything.